About Tracy Boyer-Matthews
Relationship Therapy is how I describe my expertise as a Licensed Professional Counselor. Certified in Imago Relationship Therapy for over a decade, my passion is working with clients on the core relationships in life. In Couples or Marriage Counseling, my immediate focus is dismantling ineffective communication patterns that evoke circular power struggles. With singles in Individual Therapy I assist in examining relationship histories and learning new ways to attract and keep sustainable love relationships. I also specialize in sex therapy as it pertains to dysfunction, aging, abuse or reviving new passion in relationships.
Imago is both a tool set and mindset for a new way to love. Imago examines what behaviors are either stopping or obtaining the relationship we desire, explores how we positively or negatively think about love, couple-hood, etc, and assess how models of love/relationships in childhood have influenced our perspective in the here and now.
“Imago” is a Latin word that means Image. As Imago therapist we see this Image as an UNCONSCIOUS collage of all the people who helped raised us, the good, bad and ugly. Our Imago drives us to be attracted to familiar love, which often times initially feels healing and connected. However, once commitment, longevity or monogamy sets in, often times this same relationship might leave us feeling wounding and disconnected. Imago Relationship Counseling is a unique philosophy and tool set about a different way to be in relationship with EVERYONE in your life.
Imago draws from the 3 main modalities of psychology; thinking, feeling and behaving. Imago facilitates uncovering the cognitive distortions, unconscious early decisions and early imprinted models of relationships that might derail how we think about relationships. Effective communication about the feelings that are elicited in relationships allow for these feelings to be heard, validated and further explored. What actions we take and behaviors we engage in with people in our lives is explored to determine if it gets us or stops us from getting what we want in the relationship.
This is a collection of resources that I use often to assist me in my day to day work. These people and communities have been an integral part of my training and development as a counselor.